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Available for the first time in paperback this  follow up to the phenomenally successful   Men Who Can't Love tackles the issue of  commitmentphobia that persistent obstacle to truly  satisfying contemporary relationships Authors  Stephen Carter and Julia Sokol explore why modern men  and women are torn between the desire for intimacy  and the equally intense need for independence  Drawing on numerous interviews and real life  scenarios and written with humor insight and the kind  of wisdom gained by personal experience   He's Scared She's Scared offes guidance  for all of us who want genuine sustained intimacy  with our romantic partners


10 thoughts on “He's Scared She's Scared Understanding the Hidden Fears That Sabotage Your Relationships

  1. says:

    I'm sure this was a good book but I was having a really hard time getting through than a couple of pages at a timemaybe I'll pick it back up when the next boyfriend messes me up worse than the last one


  2. says:

    The authors explore issues and anxieties about individual commitment that prevent people from finding or keeping the love they need This book examines why people may be afraid of a serious ongoing relationship and differentiates between male and female fears and responses Using case studies the authors illustrate commitment problems and suggest ways to resolve conflictsI stumbled across this book while searching for another title It called to me so I downloaded it The information presented in this book is very insightful I have a deeper understanding about myself my pattern and my past relationships The authors demonstrate the differences between active and passive commitment phobias and how they play out in pursuit panic relationships by examining each relationship stage They suggest that everyone has some degree of commitment phobia The many exercises and questionnaires in this book help readers to identify their relationship patterns fears and commitment conflictsThis book is heavy reading the first five chapters contain case studies of unhealthy relationships which I found depressing The questionnaires really helped me identify my relationship pattern and my fears I enjoyed reading about narcissistic claustrophobic universal and circumstantial commitment anxiety The appendix is a great quick reference and includes information on recovering from a break up Understanding ourselves and our behavior is key in refining it and learning from past relationships Learning to recognize commitment phobic responses in ourselves and others will assist us in sustaining healthy and satisfying relationships Everyone should read this book aside from relationships there are many other areas where commitment phobia plays a role such as at work and at home It’s a good resource with many practical suggestions which apply to all areas of life


  3. says:

    This book is structured like many self help books with scenario after case study repetitiously illustrating the basic thesis which is that there are two types of commitmentphobic people active and passive and they behave differently Which one are you if any? It doesn't take long to match your story to one of the types or this book is not for youThe first 250 pages or so could have been boiled down to about 30 pages but if you can make it to the back of the book you find out how to change your patterns Chapter Ten Making Commitments That Count offers useful insights into making incremental changes that help you stop sabotaging yourself And in the Appendix Section Two Recovering From a Commitmentphobic Relationship offers reminders to help you regain your strength and self esteem after it's over This book has overall value especially in the last 70 pagesRecommended for anyone who wonders why they choose someone who is so bad for them and how they can break the pattern for good


  4. says:

    This book may well have saved my life At least that is the hope Although I may be indicting myself I can't say enough about how much sense this makes of my romantic life If you've ever had a confusing or disastrous relationship this book may some provide insight for you too


  5. says:

    I would actually give this book a 45 star I came across this book once before and wanted to put it on my reading list and actually came across it at the Dollar Tree Woo hoo Though I pick up self help and psychology books from time to time and believe most are opinionated bullshit you know opinions are like assholes everybody has one Well this book peeked my interest and I read through it quickly Though I don’t agree 100% it’s pretty darn close and makes sense I would HIGHLY recommend it I picked it up because I was in a relationship with a Cop first mistake who was a commitment phobic He also had severe depression and popped pills for it without telling me from the beginning Needless to say I was head over heels in love with “stable mable” before I knew about his depression and his commitment issues I believe I became a passive avoider in this relationship because I lost myself my voice all because I was too afraid to offend or hurt his whinny depressed narrow ass Forgive me for knocking him but I am quite enjoying it In conclusion if relationships now scare the sh💩t out of you or you have blamed yourself for so long because “stable mable”ran away or you are a “stable mable” read this dmn book It will do you some good


  6. says:

    OMG I'm commitment phobic This book helped me to understand why guys would never end things with me even though they didn't want to be with me and frequently had found someone else I now know that I have no choice but to end things because they never will However I am still unsure how I can attract a man who is not commitment phobic because they seem to gravitate to me


  7. says:

    game changer eye opening useful in helping to identify patterns and the way fear affects your relationships both personally and professionally do the exercises


  8. says:

    Let's never discuss this read irl cos shame


  9. says:

    Part of me appreciates the premise active commitment resisters run passive commitment resisters pick people who run but part of me rejects the idea that a resistance to commitment is always pathological which seems to be the message here I found the last section helpful but the rest of the book seemed redundant


  10. says:

    This book is too long and repetitive It's better to be edited and reduced to 13After reading Men who can't love I can't wait to read this one and the other books by the authors However the book He's scared she's scared is a bit disappointing too repetitive that I doubted if I want to read the rest of books or notDespite the problem above it is a good book like a wake up call Although this is not written by professionals it indeed brings up some serious matter of fact like your dating pattern You might scared before reading this book but you will be terrified after reading it Conflicts from different parts of your life may connected and share the same sourceI love the stories shared in the books which help the authors to make clear of their points and it's a relief knowing that someone else has the same problem and we are not aloneTo be self protective is the best advice from this book