Kindle Ruth P. Newton ✓ Kindle The Attachment Connection Parenting a Secure and Confident ✓

Studies in the 1950s revealed that young children hospitalized without their parents respond first by crying for them then by showing signs of despair and finally by emotionally detaching from the parents and acting indifferent to their absence This detachment is hard to repair and highly detrimental to a child's development most children who feel they cannot rely on their parents grow up to become emotionally insecure and less self assured than their peersThe Attachment Connection sorts out the facts from the fiction about parent child attachment and shows how paying attention to the emotional needs of your child particularly during the first five years of development can help him or her grow up happy secure and confident You'll discover how your child's brain is developing at each stage of growth and learn to use reasonable easy to implement guidelines based on sound science to foster secure attachment healthy social skills and emotional regulation in your child

10 thoughts on “The Attachment Connection Parenting a Secure and Confident Child Using the Science of Attachment Theory

  1. says:

    I know I know I said I wouldn't read another parenting book for a while but I started this one before Jude was born and I was looking for a little something to stimulate my thinking about being a dadAnd now this one is not a bad book per se Newton uses scientific proof to back up her claims and I honestly believe in the core ideas here as I believe in the core ideas of Attachment Parenting period I did learn a few things too But I'm just tired of reading parenting books and having to because I happen to be a man put up with the author's biases that 1 only a mother would choose to be an attachment parent 2 only a woman would read this book and 3 only a woman have the natural ability to attach Newton does explicitly say that men can do it too a refrain in most of the books I read about parenting but I'm just tired of itIn my last parenting review I said that the best expert on your child is YOU I stand by this statement Pick and choose advice where you may but take nothing as gospel Yet there was one chapter in this book that just rubbed me the wrong way and made me stop reading In Chapter 13 Newton implies that the only reason a parent would put there kid in day care is because they couldn't afford otherwise She doesn't harbor the inkling that parents would want to utilize day care because they actually want to work or any other reason in fact She tries to make parents feel like they are taking some tremendous risk in the life of their child in doing so And again her implication is that the mother should be the one staying home but the father will do I guess if that's all that you can make happen It is for this book's subtexts assumptions biases and inability to see the eual role BOTH PARENTS can play in attachment that I say No

  2. says:

    Great book on how to foster a secure healthy attachment between child and parent Based on the science of attachment theory and written from a developmental perspective Unlike attachment parenting books this one isn't about breastfeeding co sleeping and baby wearing It's great if those things work for your family but even if you are formula feeding and stroller pushing mom in heels this is an awesome resource You'll learn about why attachment matters what healthy and unhealthy attachments look like social emotional and brain development from newborn to four years and how to cultivate attachment at different ages and stages There are sections on play and attachment developmental milestones and a section about child care concerns and issues in the light of attachment theory at the end Highly recommended

  3. says:

    Attachment theory with a focus on early brain development and attachment Chapters are broken out by different time stages in development and include what to expect

  4. says:

    I bought this book hoping it would discuss evidence for attachment parenting babywearing co sleeping etc but instead it discussed how attachment theory applies to parents They're two different things so I was a little disappointed Attachment theory is the one that found four different attachment styles secure insecure ambivalent and avoidant Securely attached children use their parent as a base to explore the world around them in an unfamiliar situation The book stressed how important it is to look at infants' right brain ugh communication and how your facial expressions body language and holding them communicate a lot than words It seems pretty obvious but it was refreshing to read about how a child's attachment should be developing since many books focus on physical and cognitive development A lot of the research cited on attachment theory was pretty old though so I would have liked to see some recent research on the subject or was it just a trend in the 70s

  5. says:

    Very useful book for parents primary caregivers and even childcare providers The crux of the message I took away is primary caregivers need to help up regulate positive emotions and help down regulate difficultnegative emotions Helping children do this is the foundation of secure children It breaks down the different developmental stages and offers lots of practical advice on how best to support children based on the developmental stage

  6. says:

    Perhaps a good resource for very new parents However as the parent of a kid who turns two next month I find it gives only the most vague overview of development of older toddlerspreschoolers

  7. says:

    InformativeI wish I had read this book before my children’s first years of life Very educational and insightful I did have some difficulty with all scientific parts but overall great book

  8. says:

    Great easily acceptable read for parent individuals who want to gain an insight into Attachment theory

  9. says:

    This is a very accessible book for parents and others who are interested in how to raise secure children using the knowledge gleaned from attachment theory research Contains an extensive bibliography

  10. says:

    This book seems to be very scientific at first but in reality it does show the skimpiness of attachment research However I do think the author has a good instincts in reading family environments I thought her observations of the seeming indifference of less attached children in the classical attachment experiment was very on point While these children appeared outwardly calm in reality their heart rate increased when the mother came back into the room after a planned absence and they also avoided eye contact Her own office 'studies' are very interesting if statistically meaningless from parents who share too much information making the child insecure to parents who overstimulate children What I liked about the book is that it posited that even homes where both parents work CAN do attachment parenting which I think is generally disbelieved She suggests a secondary attachment to a child care provider is healthier if the person does not keep changing A small part of the book is dedicated to talking about the role of the father as a secondary attachment in early childhood as the child begins to identify with another figure Throughout the book Newton keeps relating childhood attachment issues to later emotional problems and while I can see that that COULD be a partial cause an inability to receive love and trust for those later problems there are really no statistics to back that up because the theory is so new I wish she had talked about the influence of personality on attached children